Preparing siblings for the arrival of a new baby in the home is an important process to help them adjust to the changes and build a positive relationship with their new sibling. Here are some steps and tips to help you prepare your kids for a new baby:

Talk About the Baby With Siblings

Start talking to your kids about the new baby early in the pregnancy. Explain in simple terms what’s happening and why it’s exciting. You can show them ultrasound pictures and involve them in choosing a name if appropriate.


Read Books and Watch Videos

There are many children’s books and videos available that explain the concept of a new baby coming into the family. Reading these together can help kids understand what to expect.

Visit Friends with Babies

If you have friends or family members with infants, arrange playdates or visits. This can help your child become familiar with babies and learn how to interact with them.


Involve Them in Preparations for New Baby

Allow your kids to be part of the preparations for the baby’s arrival. They can help decorate the nursery, choose baby clothes, or assemble baby furniture. This makes them feel included and important.

Talk About Changes

Be honest about the changes that will occur when the baby arrives. Explain that the baby will need a lot of attention and care, and there will be times when you can’t play with them immediately.


Reinforce Their Importance

Let your kids know that they are still important and loved. Reassure them that your love for them will not change because of the new baby.

Role Play

Pretend play can be a great way to prepare kids. Use dolls or stuffed animals to act out baby care scenarios. This can help them understand what to expect and how to be gentle with the baby.


Set Realistic Expectations

Explain that babies cry, sleep a lot, and need diaper changes. Let them know that sometimes the baby might take up a lot of your time.

Plan Special Time

Arrange for special one-on-one time with each of your kids, even after the baby arrives. This can be a designated “mommy/daddy and me” time where they get your undivided attention.


Gift Exchange

Consider having your older child give a small gift to the new baby and vice versa. This can foster a sense of giving and receiving within the family.

Get Them Involved

Encourage your kids to help with baby care tasks, such as fetching diapers or gently rocking the baby’s cradle (under supervision). This can make them feel like big helpers.


Be Patient and Understanding

Understand that it might take time for your kids to adjust to the new baby. They might have mixed feelings or exhibit jealousy. Be patient and empathetic, and reassure them of your love.

Maintain Routine

Try to maintain a consistent routine for your older child as much as possible. Predictability can help them feel secure during times of change.


Spend Quality Time Together

When you can, spend quality time with your kids doing activities they enjoy. This helps them feel valued and secure.

Ask for Help

Don’t hesitate to seek help or advice from professionals, such as pediatricians or child psychologists, if your child is having difficulty adjusting to the new baby.


Remember that every child is different, and their reactions to a new baby will vary. Preparing siblings for a new baby can take time. Be flexible and adapt your approach based on their needs and responses. With time and patience, most children adapt well to the addition of a new sibling and can develop strong, loving relationships with them.

Coffee Creek Studio is based out of Shelbyville, Indiana, and is owned and operated by Amy Haehl, who specializes in family and newborn photography, as well as mentoring other photographers. Coffee Creek Studio serves Indianapolis, Indiana and all surrounding areas.



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